Morning Monday... Reconnecting to the 'what'...

Monday 6 June 2016

Happy Monday everyone! How are you feeling at the beginning of a new week? I'm beginning to feel a bit more grounded and calm than I have done lately. As I mentioned in my post on Friday, while May was an amazing month for so many reasons, by the time 1st of June came around I was left feeling a little off track. When time zooms by, and you're out and about living your life, it can be much harder to keep track of things like long term goals, and the lifestyle you want to create for yourself.

Of course everyone has months like this, and being busy, socialising, and letting go are good for the soul, but for me, times like that can't last forever without me going into a little bit of a melt down. Maybe I'm a little bit of a control freak, and in many ways a bit of an introvert. I like my quiet time, I like looking at the bigger picture, and I like feeling like I know where I'm heading.

We're now half way through the year and so many things about this year have been wonderful, but I'm not sure I'm quite where I want to be with my own personal development. I don't think I've set monthly goals once this year and actually achieved them, and I daren't go back over my spring goals for fear of feeling like a failure. I am not a failure, living life, and paying attention to other things does not make you a failure in any way shape or form, and you shouldn't feel guilty for having a life, but sometimes now reaching a goal you've set yourself can make you feel that way.

However, if like me, you LIKE having goals, then every now and again it's a good idea to switch off from all those distractions and reconnect a little bit to your 'what.'

If you read this post from me, you'll know what I mean when I say that, but if you don't, in short, I'm a big believer that sometimes we all get a little bit too caught up and stressed out obsessing over how we are going to achieve something, that it actually clouds our perception of what it is that we actually want to achieve. SO focusing on your 'what' means spending some time working out what you want, who you want to be and where you want to go rather than obsessing over how you're going to get there.

I've definitely lost site of my 'whats' lately, I've spent so much time reacting to what is right in front of me, that I'm not 100% sure the choices I've been making align with who I want to be in the long run.

I've said yes to work that isn't really the type of thing I want to be doing in the long run, because the offer has been there. I've eaten food that was put in front of me without thinking about whether or not I actually wanted it. I've spent evenings on the couch watching netflix, because I was tired, and that is what you're supposed to do when you're tired.

But none of those things fuel my long term goal, or are even what is best for me. Watching Netflix doesn't chill me out, or keep me calm, writing and reading do that. Eating whatever is in front of me can be carefree and delicous but it also triggers my 'all or nothing' attitude to food, when what I really want to be is balanced. And while financially I'm not in a position to turn work down, if I'm going to say yes to projects I need to pay more attention to what they can offer me outside of my bank balance and not just go through the motions of doing the work.

This month I have a little more down time. I head off to Lisbon for 8 days on Thursday, and my freelance work doesn't kick back in until July, so this month is all about refocusing on my 'whats.' I'm not going to concern myself to much with the hows because I truly believe that if you can get really clear on what it is you want, your choices start naturally aligning up with your long term goals. 

I'm not setting any June or Summer goals because I can't be sure that achieving any goal I set right now is really something that I want. Instead I'm going to go back to my notebook, and write down what I want my life to look like and I'm going to look back and see if that is still the same as what I wanted 3 months ago.

Because even when we're not getting carried away, living life on autopilot, what we want is forever changing. Those goals you set yourself three months ago, that you're struggling to achieve might not mean you're not trying hard enough, it might just mean you don't want them hard enough, and it's ok to admit that.

Because if you blindly follow a sat nav one direction at a time, it can take you 100s of miles before you realise you'd typed in the wrong destination.

So if like me you feel like you've lost track of your long term plan, or bigger purpose, or dreams, or your 'whats', or whatever it is you like to call it, then I hope you have little bit of time to reconnect this month and let me know how you're feeling about being half way through 2016 in the comments below x

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